This year brought some of the most dramatic changes in my life.
13 months ago... Moved. Dealing with the last months of my MIS career... long commutes to a job I truly loathed... 11 hour stressful days... and then, in January... poof!
a year ago, was an attempt by Jude to contact me - through Heather. Heather started reading the message and I told her to stop and delete it, as I didn't want to know - or hear from her.
Then Vicky Meany... First in January, telling me she broke up with Jaime... and exactly 2 weeks later... she's engaged. Again, I didn't want to hear. But I let her know gently, by stating I wished Jude all the happiness in the world.
Then, Heather informs me a month ago, that their break up was acrimonious, and there were harsh words on either side... publicly. Again, didn't care, although felt bad for Jaime, because his problem was medical.
June brought the hottest weather of the summer and a part time, off the books job that I had to quit after a week. I was so out of shape.
Then, helping with the apartments. I got pretty good at that. extra money flowed in.
I sold the drum set in April or May. I didn't like it and replaced it in July with an electronic one. Didn't like it either, and I sold that in November. Next drum set I buy will be a Tama Superstar Hyper drive or Star Classic, with Evolution Hi Hats.
The apartment cleanings became more contentious between me and Heather. I started looking for a job so I can produce additional income. That will start Wednesday with Giant Eagle in overnight stocking. This should supply about $200 additional weekly. Hence, this will provide me the funds for my new drum set.
Last summer, after battling with her ex regarding extra time with the girls, Heather contacted an attorney. We spent about $700 in fees, only to hold off all proceedings after catching up due to Sarah's getting worse. Her outbursts became very regular, and Mike decided enough was enough. After a half dozen calls to the police on his daughter - plus several ambulance rides to the hospital, Sarah is now in a mental hospital. (I called that one a year ago). Previously, she had attacked Mike's Girlfriend, Cheryl, and also attacked her grandmother. Today marks her 5th day in the mental hospital in Youngstown. Heather goes there tomorrow to get a report/evaluation. I am grateful we NEVER spent any additional money trying to get equal custody.3 months ago, when we ceased all proceedings, I told heather, she will have to apply for a loan to pay an attorney, because I won't do it.
Early in January, I set Heather up on a payment plan to catch her delinquent school loans up. That broke down and Heather never pursued it. I'm done trying to keep her afloat. Hence, another reason for my job. PLUS...
In the spring, she ashed if she could have a boyfriend, to be a fuck buddy. At first I conceded, and cut her off. She pursued it, and then stopped. Late in the summer she picked up her contacts again, actually meeting him for coffee to see if they could click. I completely stopped all attentions to her. She let me start going out every weekend, because I couldn't take Sarah, who had begun to be here almost all the time because Mike hated his mom's brainwashing of the Sarah. I started feeling as if she had emotionally moved on... as she was sleeping on the couch every night since mid summer.
She started going out after work during the week, going out with her "girlfriends" and so forth on weekends... I was fairly sure she started her fuck buddy routine, although during our most recent conversation on it, she said no. I still don't truthfully believe her. Her sex drive is far too high and I haven't touched her in a year. If she strays, she strays... it'll make moving easier.
I started looking for an apartment. While her conversation last week had me halt my search, I still will not entirely give up the idea I will one day be back up north in my own one bedroom apartment, alone. I'm looking forward to it. If I still have the job at Giant eagle overnight, I could still work, and live quite comfortably. That is my goal.
Time will tell....
